A mediator can help you and your ex-partner (husband, wife or civil partner) agree about children and money, including pensions, property, savings and investments.
They don’t take sides or give advice – instead, they help couples work towards an agreement.
Many family lawyers are also trained mediators.
Mediation works best where couples trust each other to be open and honest.
If you and your ex-partner can’t talk about who should look after the children or how you’ll divide your money, mediation might not be right for you.
It’s also not appropriate where there’s been domestic violence or where one partner is controlling or intimidating. A mediator will tell you whether your situation is suitable for mediation.
If you’re divorcing in England or Wales, you now normally need to attend one mediation session. This is sometimes known as a Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting (MIAM). This is to assess whether it’s suitable for you, before you can apply to the court to resolve any issues about children or money.
In Northern Ireland, you need to have been married for two years before you can petition for divorce or dissolution of a civil partnership.